Friendships

"You are self-centered and irritating!"

If those words came from someone you hate, perhaps you won't even bother about it. But what if it came from a very close friend? Then comes the question, "How could it come from a close friend? Good friends don't say such things about each other now do they?" Well matter of fact is, most of us hide the bare truth about the flaws of our best friends more often than not in order to avoid any misunderstandings and upsetting the other party. As a result, most of us bear with the faults and flaws in the name of being the best of friends with each other.

The beauty of friendship is being able to tell our friends up front what their weaknesses are and asking them to work on it to be a better person, without upsetting them. Recently a very good friend of mine came up to me and told me off (and no you weren't rude), "You are lame you know that? I'm telling you this cause everytime you said I ignored you and I am ignoring you for a reason and this is it." Although I know I've irritated tonnes of people in my short life span, I never knew it got to the head of some.

That proved to be a wake-up call for me and I am working on becoming a much better person not only for that particular person but also others who feel the same but refusing to be upfront to me about it. So my point is, for the sake of friendship, if there is something which is bothering you about your friends' attitude, let him/her know cause if he/she is your good friend, he'll accept it in good faith. =) but but but do it nicely, putting things into perpective and provide a buffer so that it goes down well with the other party. For comments about flaws being directed at you could prove hurtful sometimes so bear that in mind.

Life is beautiful and so are the people in them. Treat them good, treat them fair. Cherish them as you never know when all good things come to an end.